I'm stealing this phrase

Last night I had another dream about another friend.

I can understand that ones first thought may to call this sabatoge, but I have a very differant outlook. And I also feel that I have good reason to qualify the opinion that I do have.

I believe dreams can be guidance. Maybe not for everyone, and maybe we can't generalize all dreams and say they all hold meaning for us.

What qualifies me to say this is that I have been on the recieving end of this scenario. In other words, in at least two instances (these I actually know about), prosperous friendships that I was in were dramatically halted because the other person in the friendship began having dreams about ME.

My reaction to hearing from them about how their dreams were affecting their attitude towards me was devestating.
I also had a friend who would dream things about me and then call me to see if similar things were happening in my life.
Though there was not a dramatic change in her as a result of these dreams, over time, she became more shallow towards me and eventually dried up into a prune. Our current friendship can seem to reach no deeper level than surface small talk.

Yet, despite these examples, I firmly believe in destiny. I see who I am in my life right now and know that I arrived at this place as a result of the things that have happened to me. All things. Even the uncomfortable ones like friends refusing to seperate their dreams from how they felt in waking life.
I don't believe our past completely determines who we become, but perhaps our freewill is limited to space and time between events which are predestined.

The dream I had last ight very accuretly depicted the routines and character of the latter friend mentioned. While it did not necesarily change my view of her as dramatically as the dream I had earlier this week (which left me drowning in my current sea of apathy), last nights dream has reminded me of what I already know, and what she also does.
Time changes people. But some things don't change.

Empathy will always be my favorite sensation.